Relationship Expert Says More Couples Are Choosing The ‘Soft Swapping’ Lifestyle

Shelly Dar, a relationship expert, says that more couples are choosing the soft swapping lifestyle. Are you one of these couples?

If you didn't know, soft swapping is a form of swinging where couples engage in intimacy with people outside of their relationship without having full penetration. They can engage in oral sex, hand play, kissing, and other sexual activities that just don't end up going all the way. It sounds like it's becoming more popular with couple who are curious and it's often seen as the entry level into non-monogamy, per LADbible.

LADbible reports that Dar has noticed 2 main reasons why people choose to enter the soft swapping lifestyle. She tells LADbible, "First, it can add excitement without triggering the same level of jealousy or insecurity that comes with more open arrangements. Second, it lets couples tell themselves: we're exploring together, not replacing each other. That sense of control is key."

Dar says that a lot of TV shows and media has made soft swapping and swinging less taboo than before. However, as we know, media and TV don't often depict it the way it is in reality. Dar explained to LADbible, "They frame non monogamy as fun, playful, and even glamorous. What viewers don't see if the emotional hangover afterwards, the boundary setting, the awkward conversations. I've seen many couples struggle with this, those parts are just as important as the thrill itself."

Dar says honesty and communication are key. Are you thinking about picking up the soft swapping lifestyle? Read more from LADbible here.